Beeke, Joel R. & Smalley, Paul
How do you feel about how you feel?
Our emotions are complex. Some of us seem able to ignore our feelings, while others feel controlled by them. But most of us would admit that we don’t always know what to do with how we feel.
The Bible teaches us that our emotions are an indispensable part of what makes us human—and play a crucial role in our relationships with God and others. Exploring how God designed emotions for our good, this book shows us how to properly engage with our emotions—even the more difficult ones like fear, anger, shame, guilt, and sorrow—so we can better understand what they reveal about our hearts and handle them wisely in everyday moments.
Introduction: How Do You Feel about How You Feel?
Part 1: Understanding Emotions
1. Sometimes It’s Good to Feel Bad
2. What Exactly Are Emotions?
3. Emotions Don’t Come in Single File
4. Emotions Happen in Your Body
5. You Relate to Others When You Feel with Them
6. Why Can’t I Control My Emotions?
Part 2: Engaging Emotions
7. Two Pitfalls
8. Engage: A Better Option
9. Engaging Emotions Means Engaging God
10. Engaging Relationships
11. On Nourishing Healthy Emotions
12. On Starving Unhealthy Emotions
Part 3: Engaging the Hardest Emotions
13. Engaging Fear
14. Engaging Anger
15. Engaging Grief
16. Engaging Guilt and Shame
17. A Museum of Tears
Appendix: Does God Really Feel? The Doctrine of Impassibility
J. Alasdair Groves (MDiv, Westminster Theological Seminary) serves as the executive director for the New England branch of the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF). He is also the director of CCEF's School of Biblical Counseling.