Anyone in a marriage knows that we are all self-centered spouses who are married to self-centered spouses. But when this all-too-common sin becomes severe and chronic, it results in a marital environment of abuse or neglect—leaving the spouse on the receiving end feeling trapped and hopeless. But how might this outlook change if we knew that Jesus addressed just such chronically broken relationships?
Brad Hambrick examines Jesus’ teachings about relationships to show us how we can turn the other cheek while keeping away from unhealthy and destructive paths. He identifies different types of self-centered spouses to show us what we are dealing with, shares strategies for interacting with them, and points to evidences of genuine change to bring hope to anyone living with a chronically self-centered spouse.
Brad Hambrick is pastor of counseling at The Summit Church in Durham, North Carolina; chief editor of the Journal of Counseling and Discipleship; and adjunct professor of biblical counseling at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary.
“Gives sound biblical wisdom for how to recognize [abusive] patterns and practical guidelines for how to address and tackle them.” — Leslie Vernick, licensed counselor, author of The Emotionally Destructive Marriage
“Overflows with wisdom, hope, and compassion for the abused or neglected spouse as well as for the offending spouse.” — Justin Holcomb, coauthor of Is It My Fault? and Rid of My Disgrace
“The gospel isn’t just an ethereal idea. It’s not a philosophy and it’s not static. It moves and shapes and transforms. I am grateful for ABC’s work of letting the gospel bear its weight on these real life sorrows and pains.” — Matt Chandler, Lead Pastor, The Village Church, Flower Mound, Texas